Emotional Decision Making | How to Make Difficult Decisions

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Do you fear making wrong decisions? Do you have difficulty making decisions when you are too emotional? Does the fear of rejection lead you to feel helpless and paralyzed? Would you like to know how to overcome all confusion once and for all?

On this free podcast episode, Sandra is having difficulty with the request of a dying fiancé. Suffering from cancer many miles away, he has asked her not to visit him. Though she wants to do the right thing, she is emotionally hurt and feels rejected. She is conflicted and confused about what to do.

World-renowned radio counselor Roy Masters discusses Sandra's problem with her. While we all pride ourselves in our ability to make a decision, anxiety brought on by emotions will always hinder the decision-making process. Further more, forcing any mental process is eventually detrimental to health. “Decision making can affect your breathing [and] your digestion,” explains Roy.

Learn how to not be affected by the decision making process. Listen to this podcast!

(Clip from episodes: K4817)
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Quotes about decision making from books by Roy Masters:

"We should enjoy our loved ones too, but not too much. Be careful not to make people, places, and things more important than what is right. Become too attached, too emotionally involved, and you will surely bring about those moments of truth that require soul-wrenching decisions."
- How Your Mind Can Keep You Well

"A mind forced to make decisions is always in conflict with itself, and from frustration and anger, a mist arises in the mind that further clouds our reason. First we have conflict, but as we make excuses and establish those excuses as 'truth,' we have confusion."
- How Your Mind Can Keep You Well

"Approach each problem with the awareness of Now. Wait until the time is right for action without submitting the decision to some elaborate reasoning process. Be patient. True life does not filter down through the intellectual processes for you to consult. Faith is a 'mindless' trust in God, the source of the faith impulse; for what is seen is made by what does not appear."
- Beyond the Known

"When you commit yourself to the right way, you are obviously making a kind of decision, a decision to obey the right in your heart; but this is the decision that puts an end to the sin of decision-making. From now on, the Light will always be there to make the way ahead perfectly plain, and since you are committed, you will see clearly what to do. After all, when you come to the edge of a cliff, you don’t have to ‘decide’ to back away!"
– Secret Power of Words

"When you are in your center, when you are objective, then there are no decisions to make. You see only the way you must go. Everything you do naturally turns out right. You are not drawn in anywhere you are not supposed to be. In the ideal state of consciousness there is never any deciding. There is only one thing to decide, and that is to seek the purpose of existence. When you do this, the Truth who greets you shows you what to aim for. The Truth makes the right things attractive and interesting and maneuvers you like a skillful Helmsman through the turbulent waters of intrigue."
- How to Conquer Suffering Without Doctors

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Stop Worrying: Part 2 | Overcoming Worry Caused By Stress

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Do you have a “strange super-sense of responsibility” regarding close family and friends? Does your work, family and other daily obligations flood your mind with constant worry? Is the stress and anxiety of life dragging you down and holding you back? Are you looking to truly stop worrying and start living?

Though people are playfully referred to as “worry warts,” the continuous loop of thoughts and emotions that make up what we call worry is no laughing matter. The good news is that the only thing necessary to cure worry is a simple change of perspective.

In this free podcast episode, radio counselor Roy Masters continues his conversation with Bill from Philadelphia about his worry and anxiety issues. Roy explains how allowing people and circumstances to pull you in emotionally, and getting “all worked up” over them, is where worry begins its negative cycle. By understanding where these common dangers lie, anyone who wishes to deflect them can do so with confidence. Stress should be considered a useful tool for becoming a better person, not the beginning of a seemingly insurmountable problem.

This is the second episode in a two-part program on stopping worry. Hear Part 1, “Stop Worrying | Breaking Free From Constant Worry and Doubt,” for the beginning of Roy and Bill’s conversation.

(Clip from episode: K3682)
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Quotes regarding constant worry from the book
How Your Mind Can Keep You Well by Roy Masters:

“Because of our dependency upon the prod of environment, we procrastinate. We move only when we are upset, but that is the wrong time. We worry about what we have not done and resent what we must do, which grows increasingly difficult. Now we worry because we are afraid of making another mistake. Or we seek a reason to motivate us or excuse our inactivity. Now we have more to do and less time to do it—more worry!”

“Worry over the situation only makes it worse, and an outsider’s attempt to ease the tension by being polite only releases a greater flood of anger and reactivates the cycle.”

“The problem-solving activity of the foolish ego is called worry. Blind worry adds impetus to the problem and often draws to us the very thing we fear. Nagging thoughts caused by our upsets can cause us to do the very thing we dread or detest, just to get it off our minds. But it does not succeed. We are only upset again when we discover that we have compounded our problem by taking the wrong action, and added, in the vain hope of relieving the feeling, more compulsive worry as a result of being upset over our newer blunders.”

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Stop Worrying | Breaking Free From Constant Worry and Doubt

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Do your thoughts and feelings control you? Are you looking for a cure for constant worrying? Do you believe a worry-free life is even possible?

The Oxford Dictionary defines worry as “[to] feel or cause to feel troubled over actual or potential difficulties.” Stress and worry are feelings that plague millions worldwide, yet there are very few real solutions to this mental debility.

In this free podcast episode, Bill in Philadelphia wants to know how to break free from the chains of constant worry. Feeling obligated to be the problem-solver of the family, Bill claims to have always had the sense that he was meant to be “responsible for everything.” Radio host Roy Masters discusses the causes which lead to a false sense of obligation and responsibility. By understanding how resentment over circumstances leads to worry, one can easily overcome the compulsive feeling.

This is first episode in a two-part program on stopping worry. Hear “Stop Worrying: Part 2” for the conclusion to Roy and Bill’s conversation.

(Clip from episode: K3682)
This podcast is brought to you by the Foundation of Human Understanding: http://www.fhu.com

Quotes regarding constant worry from the book
How Your Mind Can Keep You Well by Roy Masters:

“Worry has been our substitute for the natural concern we should have had. We just had to worry to ennoble ourselves. It seemed quite normal to worry; but worry is really the compulsive activity of the mind without faith, in the dark, priding itself on solving the problems that worry itself created.”

“Worry is a counterfeit virtue. Guilty of failing to be creatively concerned, we needed to fill our minds with something, even when we didn’t have anything to be concerned about. It did seem the natural thing to do. Could we admit to our failings? Of course not! If we didn’t have such busy minds we would be forced to see our faults. So we worried about the war and about the kids. Worry made us industrious busybodies who meddled in every kind of affair for its great pride value. But then we got involved and created problems so enormous that our inability to solve them with worry became apparent—even to ourselves.”

“Again, worry is the action of a mind in the dark, forgetting the truth, proudly trying to fix what it did in the dark. We couldn’t stop worrying before because we didn’t want to stop; it had an ego value for us. It always seemed like love for others. It made us forget our empty, faulty, meaningless existence. It won us badges of honor for this or that cause. Had we a grain of true concern, we would never have had anything to worry about—no great activity of mind to testify to our ego’s greatness.”

“In fact, our mind becomes so empty of worry and planning that we have virtually nothing to do, except to understand more, appreciate more, wonder more and see more clearly to avoid problems. As we become more adept at avoiding problems, things become easier, so we worry even less.”

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